Why Do You Fight So Hard Against the Wisdom of the Universe

 Every single day, whether you realize it or not, you’re at war. Not with the people around you. Not with the market. Not even with time. You’re at war with reality itself.

You fight against the wisdom and perfection of the universe.
You want what you want.
You resist what you don’t want.
You cling, you grasp, you push, you pull.

And the question is—why?

Why is it so important for you to get what you want and avoid what you don’t want?

The answer is baked into your survival wiring. Your brain was built to keep you safe, not to keep you fulfilled. It’s constantly scanning for threats, constantly trying to arrange life so that it bends to your preferences. When things go your way, you feel secure. When they don’t, you resist. That resistance shows up as frustration, anxiety, fear, or even despair.

But here’s the uncomfortable truth: life doesn’t care about your preferences.

Life is going to do what life is going to do—with or without you.

The Paradox of Control

You cling to the illusion of control because it feels like safety. If you can just control the deal, control the market, control how people see you, control every variable—then you’ll be okay.

Except that it never works. Because the one thing life keeps teaching you, over and over again, is that control is an illusion.

Markets shift.
Clients change their mind.
Loved ones get sick.
Opportunities appear and vanish.

No matter how hard you fight, reality remains reality.

And yet—there’s a profound shift that happens when you stop fighting and start surrendering.

The Freedom of Surrender

Surrender doesn’t mean giving up. It doesn’t mean apathy. It doesn’t mean you stop caring.

Surrender means letting go of the need for reality to be different than it is.

It means aligning your energy, effort, and attention with what is rather than burning yourself out in a losing battle against what isn’t.

It means practicing acceptance, not as a weakness but as a strength. Acceptance is clarity. Acceptance is power.

Michael Singer calls this "non-resistance." It’s the art of saying yes to life exactly as it unfolds, not because you agree with it, but because you understand that resisting it only adds suffering.

Pain is inevitable.
Suffering is optional.

Rewiring for Acceptance

But here’s the catch—you can’t will yourself into surrender. Willpower is just another form of resistance. You can’t muscle your way into peace.

Surrender requires rewiring.

It means training your brain to stop defaulting to fear and clinging, and instead building new pathways toward curiosity and acceptance.

Here’s how you start rewiring:

1. Catch the fight. Notice when you’re pushing against reality—when you’re saying, “This shouldn’t be happening.” That’s the first signal your wiring has hijacked you.
2. Shift to curiosity. Instead of “Why me?” ask, “What is life showing me here? What’s the opportunity hidden inside this?”
3. Release the outcome. Focus on your standards—your mindset, your effort, your presence—rather than what you can’t control.
4. Return to the present. Fear lives in the future, regret lives in the past. Freedom only exists right here, right now.
5. Practice non-resistance daily. From traffic jams to tough negotiations, use small moments to train your brain. The more you practice letting go, the more natural surrender becomes.

What Are You Missing Out On?

The real tragedy of clinging and resistance isn’t just the stress and exhaustion—it’s what you miss.

When you fight reality, you miss the extraordinary unfolding right in front of you.
When you’re obsessed with what you want, you miss what you’ve already been given.
When you resist, you close the door to wisdom, growth, and unexpected joy.

The universe has a flow, and it’s always moving forward. The more you resist, the more life passes you by. The more you surrender, the more fully you live.

The Rewiring for Success

This is what The Performance Six is ultimately about. Practicing Mindfulness. Optimizing Time. Cultivating Relationships. Implementing Process. Mastering Communication. Strategic Execution.

Each one is a discipline of surrender—letting go of survival-mode control and rewiring your brain for a higher standard of living and working.

Because success isn’t about bending reality to your will. Success is about rewiring yourself to align with reality as it is—and thriving within it.

The question for you is simple:
Are you going to keep fighting life?
Or are you going to surrender to it—and finally start living?